"The women," he says, "were more interested in men their own age or older." As for the men, he says: "I guess it could be nice not to hang around a ditz with no knowledge of music or something like that." "We have strong 'shoulds' on ways of partnering up," Kathryn Elliott, Ph D, assistant professor of psychology at the University of Louisiana at Lafayette, explains to Web MD. We pathologize anything that isn't within those shoulds." The key to making older women/younger man relationships work, Elliott says, is to match what she calls voltages."Choose someone who is your voltage type -- has the same level of intensity about life."Humans are relatively flexible species," Michael R.Cunningham, Ph D, a psychologist in the department of communications at the University of Louisville, tells Web MD. You can override a lot of biology in pursuit of other goals." Interestingly, Cunningham did an unpublished study of 60 women in their 20s, 30s, and 40s, who were shown pictures of men aged to those decades. We should marry people within two years of our age.This will also set you free from the embarrassment and annoyance of general dating places.
If I want to really generalize about the younger man/older man thing, I’d say, loosely, that the older guy is “old school”, and has less flexible thinking about the role of men and women and the way they should behave in a relationship, so I, from time to time, “let him be the man”, I.e., letting him do things for me that I’m perfectly capable of doing myself…and being really grateful for it! Just because I’ve seen more doesn’t mean I should always tell him what to do.In other words, I date guys of different ethnicities, religions, political persuasions, and ages.In so many ways, a guy is a guy is a guy and some of the details that I thought would matter often don’t.It's not what you think -- the stamina or "re-boot" ability of the younger male.The women like the flexibility and sense of adventure of their more spontaneous, younger companions, Tina B.The much touted idea that women peak sexually in their 30s and men in their teens does not enter into it -- most of these couples are beyond both those age periods.