Dealing dating rejection

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After a few seconds, I calmed down and handled the rejection like a “grown woman.”No matter how long you’ve been playing the dating game, it’s hard to get used to being rejected, especially when you’ve been in the game for as long as I have.Unfortunately, I’ve conditioned myself to deal with this due to dating in The Concrete Jungle.Are you all too familiar with hearing, “It’s not you, it’s me”? Just last week I was rejected by yet another guy I thought I hit it off with.After casually dating for a few months, I woke up to the “reject text.” Admittedly, I contemplated going on him.I said something like, instead of 4 p.m., can we meet at 6?(Not exaggerating - this was the trivial level of the conversation.) She angrily replied that she had never been treated so poorly by anyone. ) she was confusing me with her husband or boyfriend or at least someone she had actually met face to face, but alas, no.Often times when we react out of anger we don’t say what we really think and feel because we are too caught up in the moment.Instead, it’s best to wait a while until you are fully composed and can thoroughly craft a response.

Not only did it make me look crazy, but usually my responses were laced with name calling, profanity and spiteful blows to the guy’s character (and manhood, yikes! As good as it feels to give that dickhead a piece of your mind (and tell him he’s going to miss out on all the great sex you have to offer) it won’t help much.One of the downsides is dealing with hurt feelings that shouldn't be hurt.The upside is being able to escape before it really gets weird.I guess I would have thought once you hit 50, committing a felony wouldn't be on anyone's bucket list, but I've met several women who have dated recently-convicted felons, and I have dated two, one of whom was wearing her court-ordered ankle bracelet on our date.) But back to the hurt feelings.A couple of years ago, when I was dealing with a fair amount of family "stuff," I had to postpone a scheduled first date sort of at the last minute. Don't ever contact me again." Well, thanks for the warning.I don't remember this particular form of insanity from my younger dating days. I dated people of marginal stability and I certainly behaved crazily toward some. I attribute it to one (or more) of five causes: I'm a sensitive guy (no, really!

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