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You’ve asked yourself this question again and again.
First, let’s talk about the whole “strong woman” / “alpha female” topic.
In American culture, movies and media, there is a strong push for an archetype of the “strong woman.” How many movies have you seen where a woman acts like a complete pain in the ass the whole movie and the protagonist dude chases her around the entire movie like a puppy dog?
Before certain members of the audience accuse me of being a “misogynist” or “degrading to women”… I am not advocating some old-fashioned viewpoint that women should be nice, quiet, agreeable creatures who exist solely to please their husband.
In fact, what I talk about goes for men and for women. And I can tell you – they don’t walk around all day thinking about how they’re alpha. You can have your desires met without demanding them.
You can also start work on rebuilding your self-esteem with proper counseling. Keeping a consistent daily routine will help you to re-establish a sense of normality. Avoid escaping into an addiction such as alcohol or drug abuse.
If you're thinking about ending an abusive relationship, but you're not sure where to turn, you can get free, anonymous support and advice from the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Recovering from an abusive relationship doesn't happen instantly.
After you end the relationship, you'll need time to put your life back together.
Other than true masochists, guys who have choice don’t want this.
I bring this up because often times when a woman tells me she’s an “alpha female” or “strong independent woman,” alarm bells go off in my head.
I’ve even seen it in a children’s movie (I think it was “How to Train Your Dragon”). Guys with any power to choose will actively Why would a guy want to choose a negative influence in his life?