It also lends a greater importance to this style as compared to the other styles because you have devoted such a disproportionate amount of time to the style.) Under use of the avoidance style results in hostility and hurt feelings.In addition, work can become overwhelming because too many issues are taken on at once, resulting in an inability to prioritize and delegate.The competing style is used when a person has to take quick action, make unpopular decisions, handle vital issues, or when one needs protection in a situation where noncompetitive behavior can be exploited.To develop this style you must develop your ability to argue and debate, use your rank or position, assert your opinions and feelings, and learn to state your position and stand your ground.Under use leads to unnecessary confrontations, frequent power struggles, and ineffective negotiating.
Extreme behaviors can occur when avoidance is overused.
It is highly assertive and highly cooperative; the goal is to find a win/win solution.
Appropriate uses for the collaborating style include integrating solutions, learning, merging perspectives, gaining commitment, and improving relationships.
A person begins to be negative, critical and sarcastic.
Other extreme avoidance behaviors include becoming passive aggressive by being late and not paying attention at meetings.
To develop skills in this style use foresight in knowing when to withdraw, learn to sidestep loaded questions or sensitive areas by using diplomacy, become skillful at creating a sense of timing, and practice leaving things unresolved.