(The Frisky) -- First thing one morning I got a text from one of my friends, the kind I get all too often: "Met my future husband last night!" My response was my standard one: "Get back to me in three months." If I've learned one valuable thing from the dating whirligig I've been on for the last six years (give or take six months here or there), it's that you must wait at least three months before getting excited about the long-term possibilities of a new person.So tune into your instincts and resist skimming over flaws, says psychologist Jennifer Kromberg in her Psychology Today piece “Relationship Red Flags: What to Look for Early On.” Find out about past relationships if you haven’t already, including what went wrong and what the other person wants to do differently in this relationship.Your compatibility along with coordinating ideas on partnership success can make a big difference when it comes to how long you two stick together.
For instance, when you talk about your main life goals, your favorite causes and your thoughts on everything from politics to religion, you may discover that you two share core values and can empathize with one another.
At the movies, go see a musical if you’re both accustomed to rom-coms or action flicks.
When you tend to spend most of your social time with another person – a person who gets your heart thudding at that – the temptation can be to start blending your interests.
I'm not suggesting he's embarrassed of you, or that he's dating someone else — though both could be true because love hurts — it's still v bizarre that you don't know more about each other's lives."If you invite the guy you're dating to attend a casual work event or a friend's birthday party and he always dodges the invitation, it's also likely a sign," says Salkin.
"If [he doesn't attend] something that is important enough for you to invite him to, he doesn't feel strongly enough about you to do things for you that matter to you."Have you made an excuse for your "halfsie" one too many times when he's ditched on a happy hour with your people other than just you? This should be an easy "peace out and see you never" moment."If you see him still active on a dating app where the two of you met, he's likely still using it, not just looking at your profile again," says Salkin.
If butterflies still flock to your stomach when your sweetie walks in the room, enjoy the feeling and give it a proper outlet with creative, romantic dates.